So the title of this blog post will make sense in a minute. Just hang in there with me. Things are about to get a little real. We have our roles as mothers that require us be nothing short of Super Woman from morning to night. Our role as a wife demands that we maintain a happy and balanced home while keeping our husbands not feeling like they are at the bottom of the totem pole when kids and pets are always competing for our full attention. It’s a full time job. BUT let’s not forget all of us who also manage full time careers on top of all of that. It’s a lot. Everyday can seem like groundhog day. We are pushed to our limits and yearn for the weekends only to watch those 2 days off fly by and feeling the pressure to get everything done in preparation for Monday. And then the cycle begins all over again.
It’s not easy. With all our responsibilities the one thing that gets pushed aside 99% of the time is the the woman who does it all. We sacrifice so much to make everyone happy but we often neglect our own well being. And this isn’t a pity party. It’s merely a fact and all part of running a household, caring for a family and having a career.
I won’t use the term complain here because I feel if you are a Mom and wife and have a successful career you are blessed and should never complain about those blessings, but venting can be very therapeutic. Only problem is when we vent to our husbands or our own Mothers they often don’t get it. So who does get it? Who can 100% relate to the daily stresses we women have? Our girlfriends. Our girl tribe of other mothers who are running the same race we are. We see them at daycare drop off. We sit in the cubicles next to them at work. We have them in our favorites in our phone log because we are texting them cries for help and words of encouragement on a daily basis.
Take time to celebrate these women and strengthen your friendships. Yes, it is time away from your obligations but let me tell you something. There’s a reason women get overly excited for girls night. When I go to dinner with Erik and see that drunk girl with her friends just acting wild — I don’t judge her. I just sit there and think that chick is just glad to be away from her kids for a night. For the record I’m never that drunk girl, but I always walk away from time with my girlfriends feeling recharged, supported, understood and validated in where I am as a wife, mom and career girl.
I’m not saying rent a limo and have a full on bachelorette party type night out (although damn those are fun) but etch time into your calendars for a girls night dinner, coffee at the park or a good ol picnic with a bottle of vino. Cherish your friendships. Take time to thank those close to you for all they have done for you. Friendship is give and take. I’m lucky enough to have a few good friends where we celebrate each other’s successes, pick each other up when we are down and have complete balance in what we do for each other. That is the formula for a good friendship. It’s not all about you. It’s not all about her. It’s about the bond you have forged together while going through this crazy race of life!
In honor of Mother’s Day month I urge you to find your girl tribe and love them hard. It’s so much more fun to deal with the tantrums, the hubby complaints and the “I can’t keep up with my house” nonsense while sharing a bottle of wine and hearing your girlfriend say the same thing. We aren’t alone ladies. We are in this together. Wine/Whine and all!
PS. Our wine of choice for whine night? Line 39 all the way. Might I suggest the Cab. Cheers to great friends. May you be one. May you have one. May you know one.
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